Remember all that effort you use to put into Valentine’s Day? Well most of that came before you got married. So how about afterwards? That’s sort of what Spouses Day is. It lets you reflect how much you still love that person and how much they really mean to you. I’m as guilty as the next person of letting a lot of that romance go, and with it Valentine’s Day is a good reminder of all the effort before marriage. Spouses Day is a day to think about all they continue to do for you, and you for them.
How to celebrate – Take your spouse to lunch today. Plan a romantic get away for today. Just spend time with your mate.
Remember that lady in white that was once your girlfriend and is now your life partner? Ya, your wife. Well you should appreciate her every day but in case you don’t, today is a day set aside to just do that. It always falls on the third Sunday in September so you have no real excuse for forgetting it. I hope I remember when the day comes around. (Yes, I do these in advance of the actual date so I never really know what day it is… ever) Anyway, if you do have a wife today is the day to show you appreciate all she does and to maybe give her a break having to do it. You know she makes you a better person, whether you want to be or not!
How to celebrate – Take your wife to lunch. Give your wife the entire day off from normal duties. Gifts are nice but nor required.
I think this day could talk on all sorts of different meaning depending on where you live. For example, if you are here in the US that could include anyone you love. But in Australia, it could mean something else entirely. Anyway, you’ll need to figure out who your mate is and then give them a kiss. (Hopefully this won’t require a thought) Kisses show passion, caring and the willingness to share. (And the proper use of breath mints) So pucker up, get those lips working and make it a day worth remembering. Like in that old song, a kiss is just a kiss… blah blah blah blah blah. Or something like that.
How to celebrate – Kiss your mate. (Australia can review this suggestion) Spend some time with your mate. Build a mate out of Legos.
We can thank the Romans for today as they honored their God of Fertility at the Feast of Lupercalia. We celebrate love today by giving gifts to the person we love. It seems old hat that we give candy or flowers, but what is older than love? It does make me wonder what Adam gave Eve for Valentine’s Day, but then the Romans hadn’t been around yet so maybe he lucked out because I don’t think candy had been invented yet. Maybe he gave her a new fig leaf. Anyway, give your loved one a reminder that you love them and that your life would not be the same without them.
How to celebrate – Honor the one you love. Give some original thought gift. Visit Rome.
We don’t give our spouse’s the attention we should. We often take for granted that they will always be there after the honeymoon is over. Well today is for letting them know that we do love them, think about them more than they might be aware of and want them to get everything they want. It’s easy to accept someone being there after number of years. We begin to think alike, talk alike and even (In some cases) look alike. The truth is, we are very different people and deserve to be a loved for who we truly are. Remember what attracted you to your spouse to begin with and take your relationship back to when it first began. You chose to spend your life with this person so choose to show them how much you enjoy them being there.
How to celebrate – Take your spouse somewhere special. Break out the pictures and travel back in time. Let your spouse know they are special.
Well here’s a day we can all find some value in. (Or at least most of us) Kiss Your Mate Day. I think this should work for all of us unless perhaps you work on a ship. How long has it been since you kissed your mate? I don’t mean the little peck on the cheek saying good morning or good night. The longer you are married generally the less you kiss. The norm seems to be that the long one is married the less passion there is in the relationship. While I don’t believe this is true, the less open display of affection is required. Note I did not say needed. I know I am loved, I know I love, to show that is no longer a requirement… but that said, it is still nice to know that, at times, that expression is shown in more than a nice dinner, a smile and a knowing glance.
How to celebrate – Kiss your mate. No, kiss them like you mean it! Avoid pirate ships today.
Well one of the most under-appreciated people in our lives is our spouse. We often take them for granted or forget that they have feelings, thoughts and dreams as well as us. But they do. The longer we live with someone the more important they become but so much of that is taken for granted that while we are aware they are there, we don’t pay them much attention.
It’s only natural. After a while, just like the sun rising every day and the moon every night, we expect them to be there. We expect them to know what we like, want and need without ever telling them anything. The truth is, they are half of us, maybe even the better half. And today is the day to recognize all that they do.
After we have been married for a while, or living with, or whatever your situation happens to be, we just sort of expect things and depend on them without thinking about them. There is an excitement when we first get together that does wane a bit over the years. It doesn’t mean we love them less, we probably love them even more, but to keep up that intensity is jus too difficult.
So maybe today we should step out of our comfort zone and go a step beyond to let our spouse know just how important they are to us. That while we probably could live without them we wouldn’t want to and even though we don;t always agree, if ever we do, we respect their thoughts, opinions and beliefs.
How to celebrate – Let your spouse know how you fell about them. List all your spouse does for you so you can actually see it before you. Tell your loved ones that you love them, even if they already know that.